So you’ve graduated college. Or, perhaps you’re about to graduate college. Or maybe you never went to college and you’ve just lost your job and you want to do that “thing” you always thought about doing. Whatever the situation, you are on the hunt for some opportunity, something to get you up and going and something to get you out of whatever slump you may or may not be in.
Opportunity: the juxtaposition of favorable circumstances.
Most of the time we don’t realize it, but when things are going poorly for us; that is when the most crucial time for opportunity is. When failure presents itself, we often times tend to focus on the negative side of the situation. It grows with us, we dwell on all of the things we wish weren’t and it just gets worse and worse. When you notice that this is happening, you can tell that you feel bad about things, and that right there is the key. There is a hidden treasure in being aware of the negative situation, the prestige of the process is turning that negative energy around and channeling it into a more positive outlook.
In any situation good or bad, you can do one of two things.
1. Start to feel better about it
2. Start to feel worse about it
That’s all there is to it folks. Better or worse. (or death do us part) “Opportunity” is just a mindset. A simple layering of the given set of circumstances and how you look at it. The real secret of it all, is how you can channel those feelings into an eventual positive oversight.
When a deer jumped out in front of me and caused almost $2,000 dollars of damage to my car yeah, you bet I was pissed. I was mad at myself for going so fast and not paying attention, and I was mad at that deer for deciding to walk aimlessly infront of me. Then… I let it go… and thought to myself “well this sucks a lot, but it happened, I can’t change anything , my insurance will cover it, dinner is waiting at home.” – I know it sounds kind of lame, but trust me there is NO value in holding onto that anger. It happened, lesson learned, move on with your life.
When I had a horrible month at work, I didn’t hold onto the feelings of failure and anger, instead I asked my boss for a review of my performance and made a plan up with him to help me excel at the things I needed work on. Now I have a better work relationship with him than I did prior and I’ve had more clarity in my profession than I have in a long time.
When I graduated college and was unemployed for three months, I saw it as a time for reinvention. I became organized and used that time to start networking with professionals who I still keep in touch with. I researched all I could on how to interview properly and used the time as a learning point in presenting myself as a professional.
When I had start paying back my student loans, I saw it as an opportunity to learn all about the finances in the world. I read everything I could about the types of repayment options, the time it will take to get myself out of debt, and instead of gritting my teeth at the amount of money I owe, I made a 10-year plan to wipe my slate clean.
No matter the situation, the secret to finding the “opportunity” is just change your mind set about it. Stop blaming other people, stop blaming yourself, start looking at the bright side. It’s that simple.
Remember, the only two things you can do in any given situation is to start feeling better about it, or start feeling worse. Opportunity is always present, you just have to be in the right mood to notice it.
Thanks for reading,
-Steve